The voice of God via His Word is repetitive with a call to start life over, to be a new person, to arise with a renewed dimension of power and hope and love. If there’s a consistent fact about the God dynamic, it is that His people often make adjustments toward the improvement side. Hopefully, we mature.
I venture to guess that you are not the same person you were twenty-five days ago; let alone even twenty-five years ago. You believe differently. You approach problems more maturely. Frankly, in many instances you’ve simply changed your mind.
So, if we note within ourselves significant changes having taken place, why would we not believe the same would be possible for those within our cluster of stressful contacts? Grievances are carried on far too long. We may note progress within our own walk; but simply forget that those with whom we differ may have grown up at the same pace (or possibly even accelerated beyond us).
Living in begrudgment is a waste of heart-energy. It isn’t necessary. Furthermore, it’s costly. Our anger and frustration blocks out our enemies and contaminates our friends. Assuming that we are immune from identical mistaken behavior, we chatter with those “on our side” as if we are not just like “them”. This practice merely strengthens mistaken barriers.
My guestimation is that, with age, you have changed. Yes, there remains room for improvement; but you’ve likely come a long way. So why would we not think such inevitable for those among our strained-relationships? Might we drop the grudges and begin to believe in the good side of…. us?